Being a Disappointment

Without a doubt, one of the hardest parts of leading the church is experiencing the pain of knowing that your choices have disappointed, frustrated, angered or hurt someone at a very deep, spiritual level.

This happens in various ways.

1. I have seen people hurt through decisions that were right.

2. I have seen people hurt through decisions that were wrong.

3. I have seen people hurt through decisions that I still can’t define as right or wrong.

The honest reality is that if you lead change, you will impact people in a painful way. And that is a very difficult reality.

I know this is not unique to church leadership. If you have ever been married, been someone’s boss or raised a child, you have experienced this pain.

You can’t have it both ways. You will either change nothing or hurt someone. And that may be the toughest part of the job.

There is no good way to lead without this tension.

And don’t expect for it to get easier on you. It will always hurt you to hurt someone else. Or at least it should.

In fact, if the pain you feel for others in this way ever goes away in you… you have a spiritual problem.

You should want it to hurt, enough to remind you of the ramifications of your decisions. That way you always take leadership seriously.

It should never be easy for you to make a decision that hurts others.

But you should never stop being willing to make tough decisions when necessary. This is the call of the leader…

And the church cannot thrive without leaders who will lead forward. So lead forward knowing that God brings everything into clarity in the end.

Be intimidated. Realize that you may hurt people. Depend on Christ and other leaders around you. Be humble. Realize that some of your decisions will be wrong. Apologize when you realize you’ve made a mistake.

Keep your confidence in Christ. Keep moving forward.

Don’t let criticism take you down too far.

Know that you are in Christ’s hands.

Lead forward.

Advertisements