A Woman’s View of Titus 2 (Repost)
THOUGHTS ON TITUS 2
By Crystal Munson “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” –Titus 2:3–5 I have seen Titus 2 come to life, not by any great virtue or planning of my own, but by God’s grace that has orchestrated events far better than we could have planned.
WHITEBOARD NOT REQUIRED
I’ll start with the “older” woman God has given me who encourages, serves, and blesses our family. We first met her husband through his volunteering at the church, and later met her, also volunteering at Mars Hill Ballard. The couple offered to watch our kids and give us a date night any time. My first thought was, “Well that’s nice. Do they know we have four kids? I’m sure they’re just being polite.” After numerous offers, however, we decided to take them up on it. Not only did they come watch the kids, but they also brought treats for them, played their hearts out, and left our home looking better than they found it. I was blown away by their servant hearts and willingness to give their free time to bless us. I was more blown away when a week later she emailed me asking when they could help again. It’s more than just the babysitting that blesses us. Each time I see Cindy, she has a hug, encouraging words, and the example of a life lived for Jesus to share with me. In her I see a woman who is continuing to “build her home” even after her children are raised and starting families of their own—a time when many women think, “Finally! Time for ME!”. She still maintains her priorities of Jesus first, husband next, serving her family, and the people around her. She doesn’t sit me down with a white board and checklist to “train” me in a formal way, but by living her life for Christ she trains me through her example, and I am blessed to know her.
As hard as it is for me to believe, I don’t just need an older woman, I am an older woman! As Titus 2 describes, I’m called to invest in the lives of younger women. Again, this wasn’t something I went looking for (although I realize now that it’s something I need to seek out), but God provided an opportunity. Jamie had met a great young couple through the Financial Coaching ministry and was blessed to perform their wedding. A few months after the wedding, the wife approached me and asked if she could serve our family by watching the kids for me while I ran errands and had some time to myself. She wanted to invest in a family that loved Jesus and “practice” for when they had kids of their own. A year and a half later, and she has become a dear friend and someone I love to spend time with. She gave her time to our family and in turn I was able to share with her some of what God has taught me in the last nine years about being a wife and mom—everything from menu planning and making a roux, to the importance of placing your hope in Christ not your husband, to how much labor really hurts (which she now knows first hand after delivering their first baby three weeks ago). I don’t anticipate her coming over anymore so that I can run errands, but I’m excited about this new phase in our friendship, when the things we’ve talked about regarding parenting become a reality and Jamie and I can walk alongside her and her husband providing support and encouragement.
In my relationships with these two women, I’ve come to realize that we over-complicate what it means to be a “Titus 2 woman.” It’s not something we participate in once we’ve “arrived” but something we’re called to no matter what stage of life we’re in. The church is rich with women that have so much to learn from each other and so much to give to each other. I encourage each lady that reads this to consider where God is asking you to reach out and offer your help to bless another woman. Don’t neglect this amazing opportunity to exalt the Word of God in our lives by responding in faith to the plan God has laid out for us. Jamie and Crystal Munson will be married ten years in January. They have four kids: Caleb (8), Kara (6), Orin (4), and Haley (2).